Timing is Everything with Horses and Life

Many years ago, when I first got Moon, I boarded him at a public facility. This was a huge mistake. To my astonishment and dismay, he arrived at the ranch looking 30-years old. He was infested with ticks, underweight, and utterly depressed. It turns out that the owners had sent him to a holding facility a few months before he came to me. That transitional experience took a toll on his heart and health. It was heartbreaking.

When I asked the barn manager how we would integrate my depressed and underweight horse into the herd, he said, “Simple, we just throw him in there and everyone (about 20 horses) will sort it out.” As a high sensitive, you can imagine my discomfort with this idea. However, because I lacked enough horse experience at the time, I released my personal power to the barn manager.

Over the next several days, Moon was beaten by the herd, receiving many nicks, bites, and bruises. I swore to myself that, if I ever had the privilege to own my own ranch, I would find safer and less traumatic ways to integrate horses into the herd. Thankfully, Moon did eventually recover, putting on weight, growing stronger, and gaining back his confidence.

Today, I am blessed to have a sweet little horse property where I manage the horses. I still believe that there is no need for any horse to suffer as he or she is integrated into a new herd. My knowledge about this process has grown exponentially as I integrated four females and several males into the herd at different times over the last seven years.

Esperanza came to live at my ranch in June of this year. At first, I kept her in a pen away from the others so I could check her worm egg count, plus give everyone in the herd plenty of time to “look her over.” Slowly, I went about integrating her with each individual member of the herd, giving them full time to get to know each other. That said, I waited a full five months for what I deemed to be the best timing for integrating Esperanza with my mustang Corazon, who exhibits stallion-like behaviors and often can be aggressive with new mares.

One day last week, I woke with a strong feeling that it was the day. As I walked out to the paddocks, I saw that my neighbor of six years was putting his barn sour horses out to the pasture next to mine for their very first time in many years. My first thought was, “Bummer, can’t do it today as Corazon will go crazy with all of those new horses to meet. It would be chaos.” Then, as I stopped and reflected, I realized that the truth was the exact opposite. It was a perfect time. I could utilize his strong drive for rounding up mares and protecting his herd to my advantage.

I let Corazon out of the paddock and he was hot to trot. He immediately headed to the fence line where he and the lead mare of my neighbor’s herd began a very noisy conversation accented by some foot stomping, posturing, and diving for each other’s necks with white flashes of teeth. When their conversation calmed down, I then proceeded to put Esperanza out, leaving Moon in his paddock where he could watch without getting caught up in a big run around (he’s much older now and has arthritis). I left Diva next to him so he would not feel completely deserted.

Once Esperanza was out, Corazon came racing across the field and, for a split second, I doubted my actions. Did I make the wrong decision? However, he simply shoed her over toward Moon and Diva as he turned and postured to the other herd, clearly communicating that he was the lead stallion of his herd. Corazon then ran back over to the neighbor’s horses for more conversation with the lead mare. My next step was deciding to let Diva out. She was curious and ran on over with Corazon. Esperanza followed as Moon watched, ears forward and bright-eyed.

After a few more minutes of noisy conversation with the neighbor’s mare, Corazon turned away and herded his two females over by Moon, again posturing to the neighbor’s herd. I then let Moon out and, as a herd, they began to circle in the field at a light canter. What a deliciously magical moment, seeing this colorful herd move together as one! Everyone went to say hello to the neighbor’s herd and, after some more lively conversations, Corazon moved his herd off and to the backfield. Moon got busy herding Diva into the corner as Esperanza sheepishly hid behind Corazon.

You may be thinking, “Isn’t this really just throwing them all together with a brand new herd to meet?” The answer is no. I always take specific steps before my herd is at liberty with a new horse. Even with the neighbor’s horses, I introduced one herd at a time to prevent a chaotic amplitude of energy needlessly putting horses at risk of injury.

It took a five-month process before Esperanza was at liberty with the entire herd. The neighbor’s herd functioned as a distraction to redirect Corazon’s often-aggressive behavior concerning new mares toward creating and protecting his own herd. This resulted in an unconscious moment of positive reinforcement, bringing Esperanza into the herd. In those moments, his actions of “protecting his herd” sealed the deal with the members of the herd. He did not have the time to try to split the herd into two pairs or aggressively chase off the new mare. What a beautiful moment! After everything was done, I took a big breath and thought, “Everything is always working out for me!”

So, what were the steps that helped Corazon accept this mare into the herd?

1. When she first arrived, I kept her two paddocks away from Corazon most of the time. This placement allowed space for him to observe her, without the need to protect himself or the others. It also gave her time to find her grounding in her new surroundings.
2. I then started to place them next to each other in their own paddocks. There were many discussions between them that resulted in squealing and, on occasion, loud kicking on the metal fence that divided them. Feeding piles were placed on opposite sides of their pens to create the maximum space from each other, preventing kicking and biting during eating times. They were also split during their pasture time, always keeping Corazon in a different pasture than Esperanza.
3. After a few weeks, I moved their hay closer together, while still keeping them in their separate paddocks. Each day, the piles were moved closer. Soon, their personal space bubbles were overlapping at eating time. Eventually, their body language shifted from posturing by moving their rear ends at each other to standing parallel with each other without any cries, pinned ears, warning snaps with their teeth, or swishing of the tails. This step took about a month.
4. I continued to move the piles closer and closer together until they were practically eating out of the same pile with only a fence between them. Again, I waited until all body language of aggression ceased before the next step.
5. Finally, I brought hanging feeding bags for both of them (because they both eat so fast) and proceeded to hang them right next to each other on the same fence line. All aggression had subsided. I knew they were close when they were both eating out of the same feeding bag.

All of these smaller steps were key. The slow pace meant that no horse ever felt overwhelmed, preventing their consciousness from moving into flight-or-fight and losing all sense and connection to their brain. Then the magic of my neighbor’s horses being put to pasture (first time in five years) worked to my advantage. Corazon was focused on protecting his entire herd, rather than trying to keep Esperanza away from Moon and Diva.

Everything in life is about timing. It’s about sensing the moments that are prime for a new unfolding and having the courage to take a chance and step forward into those opportunities. In this particular herd example, many positive steps were taken toward the end goal.

As humans, when we stay conscious about the timing of events in our lives and listen to the messages of our heart and gut, we make choices and take actions that lead us to new discoveries and integrations that may have felt impossible at one time. As the New Year rolls in, it is a perfect time for you to reflect on what you most want to “integrate” into your life and what the steps are toward that bigger dream. I offer these questions below for reflection and journaling as you enter 2019.

1. What parts of your life (dreams or visions) have you put on hold or kept off to the side in your everyday life?
2. What would it take for you to move that dream and vision right next to you, a bit closer in your vision, so you could start integrating what it might feel like to experience it?
3. What steps could you take to bring your dream into your reality (investigate through reading or conversations, taking a program, volunteering at a non-profit center, leasing a horse, or enrolling in an educational program)?
4. What will you have missed out on when 2020 rolls around if you are still holding onto the same dream, but you took no actions towards it?

Everything is in its right timing. Yet, we can’t become apathetic and lose traction toward forward movement. We must not allow ourselves to feel that our vision is not attainable. Spend some time as 2019 begins to gain clarity about your vision and how you will integrate it into your life with ease and grace. You have been gifted this one glorious life that is yours to express, create, and explore as you desire and ignite courage to do so. What are you waiting for?

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Onsite Workshop: Soul Emergence: Find Your True Self in the Herd

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One with Horse – with Kathy Pike, from anywhere in the world

The One with Horse online journey is a magical and inspiring six-week transformational process of exploration that will honor the invisible communication, unspoken understanding, and deep channel of exchange possible with horses. The program includes:

• 6 weeks of in-depth videos and tutorials to guide you in explicit detail through each step of the program.
• Meditations to bring you in line with your authentic self and open the connection with your horse.
• Detailed processes and methods to assist you with taking your relationship with your horse to the next level.
• Worksheets to help you document and guide yourself through the experiences and emotions that are brought to the surface.
• A very special releasing and reclaiming ritual.
• Tips on how to progress through active work with your horse.
• A special session on how to receive deep healing from your horse

The One with Horse transformational program is beyond riding, and riders are also welcome! Most exploration takes place on the ground and can also be easily transferred to riding. One with Horse brings activates your subtle energy field to awaken a deeper relationship with your horse.

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My favorite interview to date. I fell in love with Frederieke and enjoyed my time with her so much…

Kathy Pike, found of The Academy for Coaching with Horses, is interviewed by Frederieke Karin van der Lijn for Oude Wijsheid – Nieuw Bewustzijn

(Ancient Wisdom – New Consciousness). Explore the spiritual side of engaging with horses during this wonderful exchange. Be sure to post your comments below! If you are on a learning path with your horse or would like to deepen into one, be sure to order Kathy’s latest book, just out in April of 2021: Life Lessons from the Heart of Horses: How Horses Teach Us About Relationships and Healing. Inspiring true stories of how… Read more…

I look forward to supporting you on your journey with horses and invite you to participate in any of these offerings.

Warmly,

Kathy and the Herd