During an equine facilitated and coaching workshop in Arizona, I had the privilege of working with a beautiful Percheron named Kairos, the most massive horse I have ever seen, well over seventeen hands. At the workshop, Kairos offered participants an equine learning experience in “being” versus “doing.”
When I conduct sessions with clients, the client stands outside and prepares to enter the pen with the horse. I lead them through several questions that help them become more aware of their bodies and the desires held in their hearts. A woman named Darlene’s hope with Kairos was to experience a deep sense of peace and for time to stand still. Even as she said the words out loud, Kairos, who was at the opposite side of the round pen, turned his massive body and moved toward us, each hoof landing heavily on the sand as he came.
Darlene entered and stood in the center of the round pen, as Kairos turned to watch her. The three of us made a triangle formation. Kairos looked at me, and then as if in recognition, turned his attention to Darlene. Darlene looked petite in comparison to Kairos. His dark eyes intently gazed upon her, and he began to lick and chew. I could also see calmness in Darlene’s body and eyes as their sense of each other deepened.
I felt a direct, clear, pure stream of soft energy moving from Kairos to the center of Darlene’s heart. I immediately felt my heart expand with warm fluidity and stretch beyond where it had ever previously experienced. Soft tears came to my eyes, not of sadness or fear, but of recognition.
At that suspended moment in time, an unspoken connection and knowledge passed from Kairos to Darlene and then to me. This unspoken sense of knowing felt like a complete book of knowledge, a sense of expansion and depth much more significant than anything I have ever experienced with any other horse. It was as if the wisdom of all of the ages was shared with us.
I seek those moments of experience, bottomless, vast in circumference, and endless in time. With his sensual, prehistoric, and calming energy, Kairos invited all of us to venture into that infinite state of connection with all. The moment was one of being, not doing. Even as the coach for my client, I benefited from the gift shared by Kairos. These moments of surprise of depth and beauty are why I partner with horses in this way.
Finding the right words to express the unique way horses help humans grow their awareness has been thought-provoking. I have chosen to use the Equine Facilitated Learning and Coaching (EFLC) program because it includes the horse and the human as partners in providing personal and professional growth experiences for individuals and groups. To explore my Level One Program which is now online and to begin down a path to discovering the depth and beauty of partnering with your horse yourself click here.